Tuesday, August 7, 2012

生活點滴

最近的趣事特别多。有时觉得人只要放下无谓的执著,对人对事客观些,适可而止,生活总会落得逍遥,有另一番体会。

又是到了公司迎接新的财政年度的时候了。每每到这时,身为员工的我们,都会很期待很期待即将发出的花红。当公司宣布了花红只有一个月的时候,全公司上下都很失望。毕竟公司的营业收入比去年多了不只一倍。可是,当我们受到一年一度发出的薪酬调整通知后,大家脸上都开始展现出笑容。没想到公司这么阔气,把我的薪酬也往上调了百分之二十左右。忽然,我达到了我明年心目中理想的薪酬,甚至还要高些。

在完全没有什么经济负担,无债一身轻的前提下,这笔钱,可以让我更快达到我以后的愿望,也让我开始享受生活,家人好友也可受惠。

我的工作生涯,也开始不围绕着公司里那张桌子。出去见客户的机会多了,上司也渐渐的把我的工作范围改了。编程序的工作量很明显的减少,好希望好希望我在三十岁的时候,可以加入中层管理,得到更优厚的薪酬。

日常生活中似乎也开始充实了起来,聚会也多了。以往的聚会,总是仅围绕着吃喝。我向来最讨厌这样的聚会,因除了让人发福以外,把钱大部分花在饮食上属浪费、奢侈。如今的聚会,至少大家也会搞一些活动,比如溜冰之类的,挺好玩儿。

有时真不明白,为什么身边总是有许多和我八字不合的人围绕着。办公室政治实在复杂。由于大部分的人生都在办公室里,想避免某些同事也属难事。他总是有意无意的一同商讨事物,态度友善,看似乐于助人。不过既注定相冲,以免未来彼此反目成仇,我想是时候划清界限。与这位好同事刻意保持距离,拒千里之外,似乎有些于礼不合,不过唯有这样,方不会节外生枝。

Sunday, August 5, 2012

命裡有時終須有

分析八字,的确是一项有趣的活动。感谢一些好朋友们自愿提供时辰让我实习。在这过程当中,发觉很多事情似乎冥冥中早有安排。与生俱来的时辰八字已经注定了一个人一生中的命运兴衰,人缘、钱财、劳逸,性格脾气、命格贵贱等。渐渐地,对我而言,人生只不过是一场早已安排好的舞台剧,侥幸的是,自己的八字属贵命。

除了成为分析个人八字的初学者以外,我也学了如何分析两个人的八字的基本合配。拿了我们的八字合一合,其实结果跟事实都没有什么区别,不该相冲的全都冲了,所谓冲者散也。我就只能说一句差极了!

由我们俩来到这个世界的那一刻,这个结局早已布好了,只待我们完成。从八字观点来说,我们的相处总会让双方感觉不安,风雨飘摇,一直存在着客观障碍。加上,彼此的脾气、价值观、思维方式有很大的差异,相处也难以融洽。双方并无任何的共识、默契,步伐也似乎不能一致进退,总处于一个说东,对方却说西的状态。最终分道扬镳,不欢而散的可能性很大。即使今日勉强维系,也难免他日不会步入一样的结局。

除此之外,双方命局里各带冠带、帝旺。命带冠带帝旺者,自尊心很强,不喜欢服输,喜欢支配他人,有心计,喜欢玩策略,做事喜欢独断专行,喜居他人之上。一方命中又坐绝,就是说这方喜欢群居生活,做事欠长远打算和思考,凡是只有三分钟热度,注定自己跌倒自己扶。试问两个命带冠带帝旺者走在一起,相处岂不就矛盾?不过我万万意料不到的是,你的命格里注定生无情火,容易无情绝义。

以上分析和事实相当吻合。不明白的是,这样的八字搭配,应该连朋友也做不成。深入推敲之下,原来双方属有缘人。双方在农历里可是同月同日生,非常有缘,不过此缘分并不长久,也非善缘,因彼此注定互给伤痛,直到最后缘分中断,分开告终,实难救药。

既然命局如此,唯有顺应天命。当我下了这个决定时,很玄的,我的生活马上充实起来。以往的好友纷纷回来了,似乎是天意让他们填补你离去的空隙。活动一个接一个,转眼间,事情好像是很久很久以前的事了。既缘尽,我相信很难会再碰头了。

至今,一切似乎只是一场梦,过眼云烟。也许在未来的某一天,我们企图昂然回首,会质疑自己这两年是怎么过的,彼此是否真实的在双方生活中存在过。可能最终得到的结论是,对方都只是彼此脑海里幻想出来的角色,不过是个怎么样的角色,也无法回味。请相信我,故事这样的结局最好不过了。

Saturday, August 4, 2012

在遺忘和回憶之間

有缘千里来相会,无缘对面不相识-此话确是老生常谈。

故事里,两个不相识的人因缘起相会了,成了彼此生命里最亲的人,然而又因缘灭而最终分道扬镳,再转为不相识的两个陌生人。感觉在遗忘和记忆间发酵,美好之后,只能感叹一句人生无奈,有些茫然。

大约两年前,我们相遇了。虽然只是很短暂的一段时间,不过当时的我们似乎一拍即合,一直保持联络。渐渐地,彼此成了对方生活中最要好的角色,互相扶持。这两年里,许许多多的难关和挑战,我们都携手越过了。我总会向往周末,因为周末我们总是会把时间腾出来给对方,也少不了你精心安排的活动。一同去放风筝、一同熬夜为了预留你的羽球场地、每月一度的新山之游,还有一起出国、打麻将等美好回忆。你策划,我让它实现。而我,因为疼你,每当出国或逢什么重要节日时,总会给你一些比较贵重的礼物。时间和金钱,也没法计较这么多。

曾几何时,这样的关系又变质了。一个曾经给我这么多快乐的人,对我的言语举止比冬天还要冷。你给的借口,统统自相矛盾,似乎企图在寻找一些冠冕堂皇的理由来补充你的不足为由。优柔寡断的你,让我觉得你不清楚自己到底想要些什么,不想要些什么,总把精神乱投在一些无谓的地方,为自己塑造一个似是而非的形象。

于是我独自去了香港散散心。也许无聊,便到了黄大仙求了支第47号签。签曰:
遥远千里来西蜀,欲问荆州那日还;
刘叔不言双泪下,自思无策转吴间

此签说明了无论我今年再怎么努力,再多计谋,最终也都徒劳无功,空手而归。

不知道是不是我和那位相士投缘,加上我的粤语不算差,我们越聊越多。我让他给我看八字,从而捉到了一些看八字的巧妙。结果和我小时候批过的结果绝对吻合:在我三十岁后就会走运,心想事成。在我寡言之下,他也顺口道说了,我的命格可容不下属马之人,可你偏偏就是属马。鼠和马,是十二生肖里的天敌,不会有共识,也不会一致。虽然生肖并不是断定两个人相处的全部,但是最重要的一部分。

也许冥冥之中早就注定了我们今天失败收场

实际上,我累了。回想起来,我们步伐从没一致。我总是在忍让,在收拾残局,而你,却得寸进尺,把我当成了你的理所当然,总是迫不及待的舍弃我。我不喜欢这样的日子,也厌倦了总是和你抬杠的日子,更厌倦了你对我呼之则来,挥之则去的态度。况且,这次,我真的束手无策了,不知道怎么挽回,不知道有什么值得挽回

属马和属鼠的人走在一起,到了终点,受创伤的都总会是属鼠之人。

考虑了很久过后,心里如释重负。我决定还你自由,让你如愿以偿,去寻找自己的一片天空。这片天空里不会再有我的出现,至少我深信这样你一定能够快乐。我不知道未来的我们还会不会再碰头,不过我很珍惜我们一同走过的两年光阴。谢谢上天曾让我们相识,也谢谢你陪我度过这两年。

我在此给你我最后的祝福:祝你身体健康,幸福快乐

许在另一个平行空间里,我们俩是幸福快乐的一起生活,过着无忧无虑的日子

Sunday, July 29, 2012

慶祝好友生日感言

今天是某一位好友的生日。为了庆祝这位好友的生日,昨晚就为他搞了一个自觉得有些隆重的生日宴,送给了他由我精挑细选的昂贵皮包,今天也会请他去看一场舞台剧。花了这么多钱,我简直就是心如刀割,不过毕竟也是相识了快六年的好友,由相识转为水火不容,再转为好友,交情非浅,也许这些钱也算不了什么。今天早上,收到了这位好友的短讯感谢我说他非常喜欢那皮包,不禁有些欣慰。喜欢就好。

 似乎遥远又正来临的十一月的某一天,是我的生日。每个人庆祝生日的方式不同,而我,随着年纪愈大生日越感受不到快乐。生日的喜悦再也无法像孩童般地由一个装饰华丽的蛋糕所获得了。对我而言,生日也只不过是长大后所联系起来的人际关系的祝贺活动而已。生日也似乎成了时间表,让我期许自己未达成的目标能够在下一个生日完成,渐渐地,生日也似乎没什么意义可言。

 儿时想法真简单奇怪。小时总是不明白自己为什么没有华丽的生日蛋糕,埋怨着没有像其他朋友般搞生日宴,接受很多很多的礼物。也许那样是一件好事,因为虽然朋友众多,却属缘淡。长大后才发现原来自己最想庆祝生日的方式莫过于和父母或身边最亲的朋友一起吃顿便饭、游玩,不需要大费周章地庆祝,不需要华丽的蛋糕,更不需要什么昂贵的礼物。可以在我生日里一同庆祝的人,往往是我生命里最举足轻重的人物。

 前两年是我人生里过得最开心的生日。虽然我的生日愿望是每年都如那两年般同样的快乐不变,不过时过境迁,愿望再也不能实现了。

 我祝我这位好友生日快乐。

Thursday, July 19, 2012

A year has passed...

How time flies...it has been a year since I have last updated this blog of mine.  Throughout the fulfilling year, I was kept busy actively pursuing my own personal goals and interests.  At the same time, I have made many many memorable travel trips during this period, averaging almost an overseas trip every month.

To date, I have made the following visits:

July 2011:
Bangkok, Thailand


August 2011:
Bangkok and ChiangMai, Thailand
Batam, Indonesia


September 2011:
Genting Highlands, Peninsular Malaysia (Partially sponsored)


November 2011:
Seoul, South Korea (Sponsored leisure trip by Company)


December 2011:
Batam, Indonesia (Christmas Celebration)


January 2012:
Brunei Darussalam (Chinese New Year)


February 2012:
Genting Highlands, Malaysia(Partially sponsored)
Geneva, Switzerland (5-day work trip)


April 2012:
Osaka, Japan including the Japanese cities (Kansai region) of Himeji, Kobe, Kyoto and Nara


May 2012:
Batam, Indonesia


June 2012:
Geneva, Switzerland (25-day work trip) including the Swiss cities of Bern, Gruyeres, Interlaken, Lausanne and Lucerne
Batam, Indonesia


July 2012:
Hong Kong S.A.R. (Solo trip)
Macau S.A.R. (Solo trip)


For future blog posts I may be switching to Chinese as I find it easier to express myself in the language, and that I hope that I can further improve my Chinese language.

Thursday, July 21, 2011

reconciliation

everything seemed to have smoothen themselves out this week.  it's a sudden twist of events that the friendship was salvaged, and we seemed closer than before :)

anyway work has been fulfilling.  it's my first week fronting the support calls from London and i have managed to solve most of their issues without much external help.  I hope to gain more experiences in subsequent challenging projects, and eventually aim for a lead or management position, which inevitably, leads to a wage hike.  i need to work harder and move faster than others because i wasted some previous time in my ex-company, which resulted in stagnation of my pay.  Most of my peers are now far ahead, and i wish to rejoin them in the proper ranks.

Monday, July 18, 2011

post-trip melancholy

i am completely flabbergasted by the recent turn of events during the weekend trip to bangkok with a group of friends. it started off fun and interesting enough, but eventually due to reasons and factors beyond my comprehension, it ended in bitterness and unhappiness among all of us.

this was one of my shortest trip ever, with the biggest traveling party, and due to some random incidents, it was sad that the party of six split into two separate groups during the second half of the trip.  One of the guys started giving us troubles and with all his tantrums, really turned me off during the trip, so much that i did not really wish to talk to him at all.

honestly speaking i was surprised to receive a "breakup" sms from him. i simply have no idea why he was reacting this way.  if he feels that people who care for him are supposed to always cajole and pacify him whenever he throws a temper fit or embarassing tantrums like a child then i really find him immature and childish.

i learnt quite a lot from this trip, and unfortunately, lose a good friend.  this friend used to be very dear to me, but the last few months i'm really exhausted - it had became a one-way friendship and i felt that i was always taken for granted, and i had had to put up and give in a lot.

thinking back, this friendship was fraught with difficulties right from the start.  it's as if circumstances around us are trying to make us dissolve this friendship.  it's a miracle i stayed on for so long.

i cried when i received the sms, partly also because i cannot bear to see this friend of mine go wasted like this.  i have never been so close to anyone for a long time.  removing his stubborn immaturity and emotional instability, he could have been a great person, not just as a friend.  he has many attributes i wished to have, but alas... so to all parents out there, can please teach and groom your child properly?  if not, please don't bring any children into this world, thank you!

i never seek to become too close to anyone...i am scared, for i feel very strongly for my close friends, of such endings.  this time i am deeply hurt again.  god, why do u allow me to be hurt again and again? why did you not answer my prayers and help my friend?

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

午时感想

每当我觉得自己运气开始好转的时候,事实往往都会转逆。财政方面如此,事业也如此,人缘也如此。自小就不觉得运气会特别关照自己,即使好事偶然发生在我身上,事情总会变质,以不愉快为收场。

上星期五的公司家庭日里,是我人生里第一次在幸运抽奖里头赢了大奖 - “豪华汉城旅游配套”。那时的心情是又惊讶又开心但也同时有些失落,毕竟我对韩国并没有什么特别大的兴趣。相反的我妈比我还要兴奋。后来决定与家人一同赴韩游玩,才发现或许要和另外得到这份配套的两位同事一同出发。我渐渐对这份本来没什么兴趣的配套更是没兴趣了。

我向来觉得同事不该把朋友般相待。前公司的遭遇也让我坚持守着这个原则。近来,我觉得自己开始违反了这所谓的原则,竟和两位同事开始为伍。

记得在某一个早晨,竟然下了一场倾盆大雨,让我无法抵达公司。突然,有位同事竟拨电给我,问我究竟在哪里,不一会儿他就说他上了一辆的士,绕路把我给接载去公司了,并没向我要车费。第二天傍晚,当几乎全公司上下都为前赴其中一位经理的婚宴而安排顺风车的同时,我和这位同事选择乘搭公共交通。车程中,彼此也开始健谈了起来。不知道聊到什么话题,他问了我一些关于把他当朋友之类的事,我沉重的告诉他,世事难料,今天或许我们做得了好朋友,可能几周后会不理不睬,甚至反目成仇。

这答案反映了我对人际关系缺乏信心,有所保留。经过这么多年的人情冷暖和伤痕累累,我累了。心里早已把自己与外界的复杂种种隔离。近来也比较想当宅男,一半是为了省钱,另一半可是因为近来出现的人素质不高,来来去去都是那几种PATTERN,有时甚至还要当上他们的保姆,实在让人疲惫不堪。既然时不与我,唯有让自己好好休息。

我决定把所有精力投向工作,不让自己有多余时间去想别的事情,把近来的烦恼和今年不开心的事全置之脑后,同时希望在这两三年以内,可以让自己有能力供养一辆车子。现在这份工作有出国的机会,我希望可以借机离开一下,到国外散散心,学习新事物扩充视野。现在正在忙的一项欧洲PROJECT,虽然把我的工作时间颠倒了,但或许月底能让我去一趟伦敦,我认为也是值得。

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

当时的月光

while walking home from bishan mrt earlier, i remembered an excerpt from this book i read some time ago - 一路上有你真好, a book i had since my secondary school days, which resonates well with my inner self:

时间改变了、关系也改变了,月亮仍放射它的光芒,引领夜归人踏上旅途。只是当时的月光已不复以往的的记忆,有欢笑,有雀跃,也有依靠。如今,我只能自己独自的勾勒当年月光的轮廓。

走向黑夜深处,走过寂寞的小巷,陪我走的仍是月亮。


Tuesday, June 28, 2011

the missing period - reminiscence

i have finally decided to resume my blogging as i have more free time on my hands recently.

for as long as i have gone missing in action, many things have happened in my life.  frankly speaking, more bad things have happened that good ones.

looking back, the subsequent two months after my return from the china trip were the happiest times in my life, and i thought i had my prayers answered but, well, happy times dun last.  at least this is a fact i need to get used to in my life.  though i am trying my best to try for miracles until this very day, as my sentiments have never changed, i guess, chances could be very slim.  is this what the chinese like to say - 有缘无份?

anyway, i have shifted to bishan for quite some time.  i'd say bishan is a decent location to stay in.  it is centralized and getting to most parts of the island seems less of a hassle. by a stroke of luck, i managed to get a decently priced room with very good landlords :)

2010 came and go, and with the advent of 2011, things went downhill.  i hate this year as soon as it arrived.  many things were all happening all at once that i almost couldn't cope.  i couldn't focus much on my work, and, with the closing of march, i had a switch of job, into something of a different realm altogether.

with this new job, i put in plenty of effort so as to keep my mind occupied, and also partially because i find this new job scope interesting.  anyway i feel that my efforts have bear some fruits and was appreciated and recognized. overall i find working in this current company much more pleasant and enjoyable with decently good bosses.  well, decently good bosses are a rarity nowadays!

anyway, july will be a busy month for me.  i'll be working on a european project and my working hours would then start from 3pm.  i will be visiting bangkok with a group of friends for leisure in mid-july, after which i may have to fly over to london to attend to the project.  right after the national day in august, i'll be flying to bangkok again with my poly classmate, this time to visit some thai friends and we intend to hop over to chiang mai.

that sums it all up, my m.i.a period.